Can you be described as a good arguer, or simply quarrelsome? Arguments are good; being quarrelsome is not.
Argument: a reason or set of reasons given with the aim of persuading others that an action or idea is right or wrong.
Quarrel: an angry argument with the aim of demeaning or injuring another person or persons.
“For lack of wood the fire goes out, and where there is no whisperer, quarreling ceases. As charcoal to hot embers and wood to fire, so is a quarrelsome man for kindling strife.”
— Proverbs 26:20-21
As Christians we are commanded to argue well without allowing the argument to turn into quarreling. This means we need to have a solid grasp of the Gospel message and also have understanding of opposing views, as well as maintaining a winsome character. With this knowledge and demeanor you’ll be able to argue in a convincing manner, not in an aggressive manner.
“In your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect.”
— 1 Peter 3:15
The Gospel message is inherently offensive to the world, but our manner of argument (making a defense, as Peter puts it) need not add any offense that is not inherent to our message.